Its Called "Rock Bottom"

Yeah, I think my dating life hit Rock Bottom, and it wasn't recently.

I'm in the beginnings of detoxing a lot of different things in my life, I used "detox" because it sounds better than "I'm going to start spring cleaning" however, my budget is getting a makeover, I'm starting a 30 Day Bikram Yoga Challenge, which I am really excited about, I'm moving more back into my plant based/slow food/raw cooking style, and something needs to be done about dating.

I'm considering during my 30 day Bikram Challenge I should also take a break from dating and take serious look at my dating history. Then I thought I may need more than that. Should I ask myself that dreaded question that most single guys and gals hate to be asked? "Why am I still single?" I especially hate that question, but what it my real answer?

With recent articles from Tracy McMillan, who may have presented a couple seeds of truth, but formed them into giant balls of shit, similar to a dung beetle, I needed more research. I was going to be open minded.

So, after taking a lesson from Charlotte in Sex and the City, going to the local Barnes and Noble and taking a gander in the "Self Hell" section wasn't something I would ever do. I went to Amazon. I ordered 2 books... The first one came in a couple days ago and I am almost half way through it.

I am glad to say that it doesn't reflect the same attitude that McMillan is presenting. Its called, and the title fucking kills me, "If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?" you can laugh now. Could you imagine buying that book at B&N? Seriously taking that up to the cash register?? HELL NO! If there was no online shopping, I'd rather risk stealing that book than buying it.

However, the book is good, it doesn't seem to be the golden scriptures that some may think it is, but it offers a lot of advice. It has practical applications, and the best part is that is completely realistic. I'm about halfway through it and once I finish I will post a real book review and some of the best advice from it, just so anyone who is interested can save their money. Also she has little "experiments" for the reader to fill out, and I can already say that it would have saved me a lot of time last year.

The second book I ordered hasn't come in yet, and I am so glad. I probably would have read this one first because I found it through a magazine article at the doctors office. The Why am I still single book is more positive, that through perseverance you will find what you want, and what you believe you deserve.

The second book is called "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough" laugh again, cause I seriously am embarrassed for myself. However, in her article she talked about how she dating quite a few guys that were good enough and it was her attitude of entitlement that made her think "Someone better will come along". I would like to think that I am smarter than that. However, I know from experience that I am not.

Case in point: The Firefighter. I ending things with him because I felt like someone better would come along that I would have a stronger chemistry with. I was wrong. I admitted it, and because he is a good person, the kind I was looking for, he took me back. Then, the end. Anyways...

That book still hasn't come in yet, so I am trying to finish book #1 until then. This is an interesting break from my normal reading, which is generally textbook biological science. Its just another aspect of science that I never really cared much to learn about.

I find dating advice books interesting. I am not at all desperate to find someone, I am desperate to stop wasting my time. Going on lousy date after lousy date kills your soul. Its science (maybe not). Just sayin, it sucks, its defeating.

I still believe that A should become a relationship psychologist because a good amount of the stuff written in book 1 is things she has also told me, but in a different way.