First Date #28

I make rash decisions when my emotions run high, be it sad, mad, happy, whatever. Not level headed me likes to do things out of spite, A LOT. After the fiasco when the Firefighter I was in quite a depression, well for that weekend anyway. The morning he left my apartment, I decided to email the blast from the past guy back.

I remembered who he was slightly, it had been a while since we talked, I just remember that he is into Jiu Jitsu, well, he competes sometimes, I don't know much about that stuff. However, I do remember why we stopped talking, he wasn't looking for a relationship, he was looking for something casual and that wasn't my cup of tea at all.

Not sure if almost 2 years has changed anything, but I'll take a shot at it.

We met for brunch. He works in the evening. We went to a popular breakfast place, The Mission. Not really impressed with the place, but thats besides the point. He was late. I dislike tardiness, but there was a cute dog I was hanging with before he got there.

No hug, no opening the door, but good conversation. We got seated quickly and awkwardly looked over the menu as we spyed on each other. Isn't that what most people do on first dates? YES.

While waiting for our food, we had good flowing conversation. Talking about yoga, Jiu Jitsu, work, TV shows, and random life stuff. He was funny, I am funny, we were a table of quick wits and it was awesome. I had been dreading going on this date because my mind is consumed with someone else, and I'm just down on dating in general, but this was what I needed.

The check came, he grabbed the bill, and I grabbed my wallet. You know, the wallet grab, I wasn't sure if he noticed, so I asked how much it came to, $26, and I said I only had a $20. So did he. He said he would put down his and then I take care of the rest and the tip and it would be all good. Hmm..

On the way out we were about 5 steps out of the restaurant when he asked

"So did you like it?"
Moi: "Um, breakfast? Yes"
"No, I mean this"
Moi: "Oh, you mean did I like the date?, Or all this" and I motion down my body like a creepy creep.
"Yes"
Moi: "Haha, yeah, I had a good time, check this box for yes"
"Yeah, I actually have a survey card in my car"
Moi: "Oh, like a comment card? PERFECT!"
"Yes, just like that"
Moi: "Is it a bubble sheet? I hate having to write out sentences"
"It is, so you'll need a number 2 pencil"
Moi: "Just scantron grade it through the machine"
"Exactly, I don't want to grade it myself, I'll let the machine do the calculations for me."

We both laugh for a bit, then silence.

Moi: "So.. Yeah"
"What, are you trying to break the silence?"
Moi: "Yes, we just joked around for a block, then it was like crickets"

Then we were at the crossroads, I was parked here, he was parked there. I wasn't at my car, but at the corner block. I told him I had a good time and we should talk later. He agreed. We hugged. That was it.

It was a good date, all in all. But, I got the vibe that he wasn't too into it. I figure I wouldn't hear from him again and just brushed it off.

I emailed him an hour or so later and told him thanks for breakfast and we should do it again sometime and I gave him my number. Just to see. After an hour and a half he emailed me back that he had a good time and that he was down for round 2. We have been exchanging messages since.

So who knows. My mind still wanders, but that happens.