Not My First Ball Game

Some men think they are so smart. This passive aggressive game they play to make you feel bad enough that you want to make it up to them, by giving in to what they wanted ALL ALONG. Good cop, bad cop. Whatever it is. All they want is sex.

I've already been played like that before, and I'm not looking for a rerun. I knew what the first guy was doing, but I gave in anyway. This time, I don't fucking think so.

I've had my suspicions with this last guy (First Date #28) I even mentioned it in my post that the reason I stopped talking to him last time, was because we wanted different things. He seemed somewhat different this time, but would drop lines here and there that I wasn't into at all. The red flags. Since he didn't pressure me, I let it go.

This morning he sent me a 'good morning' email quite early. I gave him my number days ago, he still just emails me. On a side note: Why wouldn't he text me? Hiding something? Anyway... so we were exchanging a couple emails, then I went to yoga. While getting into Eagle Pose I managed to irritate my back spasm, and almost yelled "FUCK" in the quiet studio because of the pain and inability to move. I ended up leaving class early, embarrassing.

Anyway, he had asked how I was doing and I told him that I injured myself in yoga, he offered to come over and act as my personal massage therapist (he's licensed, score). I played it off, saying "Don't tempt me"

"We are both adults, just say the word and I will be there with a bottle of wine and my massage table as your personal, professional massage therapist"
Moi: "Wine and muscle relaxers are a no-no. Its tempting. I just wouldn't want you coming over to my house for the first time because of something bad I did to myself. Although it would be awesome to to have some personal massage therapy, I don't think you would be able to touch me without it hurting. Thanks for the offer though, its very kind of you sir."

I figure, keeping it light and giving him a real reason why I don't want him to come over, besides it being too soon. I know what would happen if he came over. I thought it was a good message.

"Wow ok. By the way, I'm aware wine and muscle relaxers don't go together, I did go to school and graduated 3x deans lister, lol. I was just trying to set up a mood but I totally get it, u don't have to tell me twice. I hope you feel better enjoy your day ok"

Seriously bro? I'm sorry, but it was so passive aggressive.

Moi: "I didn't say that to be snide at all. I also wasn't trying to insult your intelligence, by any means. I apologize if thats what came across, it wasn't my intention at all, in any way."

He wrote me again saying that he didn't mean to come across as angry. No, you were just being a brat because I wasn't giving you what you wanted. Further more, I don't need to date a guy that acts like that, especially since we have only gone on one fucking date dude. Sure, we have been talking for a couple weeks, but now it just seems like a waste of time.

Some people never change, my gut instinct was right about him. That's why I didn't email him back initially. It took a push of me being in an angry state to reply to him. Now I just really miss the FF. Dammit.