We're in the Ber's

I love the "Ber" months! My townhouse is already decorated with Halloween things that I've had stored and some that I have been hunting around town for. I really have a problem with this every year. Last year I did most of my Christmas shopping, so I don't need to pick up anything additional this year, thankfully. 

My last update was sometime in July, I've been on a few dates since then, one with a guy that I really hit it off with, we spoke for a week before having brunch at The Hayden, he asked to get coffee at a small place behind the restaurant after. I was digging this guy, 6'4, a couple years older than me, no kids and really wasn't interested, homeowner, good career. We got coffee after breakfast and talked for an additional hour. He walked me to my car, I told him I would be very interested in seeing him again, he reciprocated interest. Then he ghosted. Okaaay. 

Then I went out with an older guy, he was 52, retired from a career as a military attorney. Homeowner, no children. Dating with intention to marry, made that very clear. He pursued, but really led with his wallet, which okay, I am all for a provider, but he seemed to have no interest in getting to know me as a person, just if I would be complimentary to his lifestyle... if that makes sense. And not complimentary as partners, but can he talk at me regarding his interests, and am I intelligent enough to converse on the topic or not. 

We went out on two dates, but I just couldn't see myself with him at all. I am not opposed to dating an older guy, but this guy was a no for me. I sent him a text thanking him for taking me out, but that I didn't see this going further, then blocked and unmatched him. 

Then I started talking to a guy that was a military contractor and currently overseas. This is usually a raging red flag for me, and I knew when I came across his profile that this guy was toxic as fuck, but I think I was quite bored with it all and engaged. I was right, he was quite toxic, but it was an interesting time. The love bombing was different than what I've experienced before, but it's all kind of the same at the end of the day and I just have to roll my eyes. We got into an argument because I told him he was being mean, and that he could get a lot farther with me by being kind and that really got under his skin. He then sent me a paragraph ending things, including a quip about how my standards are too high, especially at my age and that's "not how the world works". I was literally just asking you to be nice to me, but okay. I responded back "Ok", ensured the message was delivered, and blocked him on everything. 

And yes, I knew him well enough to know that my lack of emotional response, or any rebuttal, would have pissed him off, that's one of the reasons why I did it. Another was that I also wanted to end things, but I know that a guy as toxic as him, it has to be his idea; and third, I'm never going to argue about a break up. I guess I got this into my head a long time ago to just accept what the other person is telling you and exit with grace. I can be a mess and question it as much as I want in private or with friends, but I won't breakdown in front of the other person. 

Overall, it's been a slow summer for dating, but I don't think that's so bad. It's hot as hell here, and why get all made up just to sweat it all out? I've mostly just been working and at the gym and I'm pretty happy with that.