Two First Dates at Pasha, a Month Apart

So I think that Pasha is going to be my default first date place. The food is amazing and fresh and its perfect for maintaining a calorie deficit or staying within range. 

So, I had a final first date at Pasha with a guy a bit younger than me on the first weekend of June, took the rest of the month off and a couple weeks in July, then started talking to someone mid July and we also went to Pasha. 

So, the younger guy was nice enough and attractive, but not for me. He was not established in a career, was living with his brother and his girlfriend, recently out of a relationship since January, and had some lingering resentment issues when we were talking. He was very kind and a gentleman, but it was an immediate pass for me. I sent him a text when I got home that it wasn't going to work and wished him well, then unmatched and blocked. 

Now, the second guy was older, established in his career as a master electrician turned project manager for their electrical contracts. Divorced recently, but separated for 2 years, so a total of 2.5 years out of his marriage. We had similar views on relationships, and our thinking and exchanged pretty long messages, which then turned into long emails once we were off the app. I typically do not like doing this, but I think that sometimes I'm freshly back on the app and not attuned to how short you need to be with men before you go on a date with them. 

The date started okay, although he didn't look the same as his photos, not too different, but I was surprised, maybe he just didn't have good pictures. He talked about his marriage and the lengths he went to submit to her requests, then talked about his male friends and how they do all these things for their wives and they don't get sex. Ohhkay. Eventually I thought this turned into a therapy session and I was the therapist (I'm not a therapist!). 

Then he talked about how the apps are just to get money from men, and said that he's only gotten two matches and I said "what, me and someone else" and he was like yeah, pretty much. Then he asked how many matches I had and I said (honestly) that I didn't know, but it doesn't matter since I can match with someone, but if they don't initiate a message, it's a moot point. He seemed very bitter about this and responded with a humpfh type sound. At this point I was signaling for the check, and a waiter walked by and gave me a double thumbs up and walked off. Like what the fuck bro.  

The guy saw me and I was like "it's getting really late and I have to be up early for work, we should get the check", and he asked the time, I told him and he said he didn't realize the time, and we should split it. 

Excuse me? I had to listen to you trash your ex wife and poor me whining and you want to split the check??? The waiter finally came to the table and I asked for the check, and put my hand on my wallet and then the guy goes "oh no, I got it" so, I am assuming I didn't hear correctly, or he changed his mind because my face when he suggested splitting was not hidden. 

He walked me to my car and I decided to be a bit confrontational and asked if he was even interested in going out to begin with, as he stated I was only 1 of 2 matches for him and he didn't seem to enjoy the date at all. He was just going with it. He backtracked and stated that he really liked me and enjoyed the date and I should think about if I want to see him again and let him know. I blocked him on everything as soon as I parked my car at home. This felt like a "I had nothing better to do than waste this woman's time and try to get sex and/or attention" kind of date. I am over it.