Dough is a wood fire pizza place in the city. I believe there are 2 locations, I am not sure if it is a chain after that, but it is a cute place, you get a view into the kitchens, which is just a prep bar and two large stone pizza ovens in each corner. It must be sweltering in that prep area, from my research on those brick ovens (Miles and I briefly discussed the merits of building, and also during my "The Elements of Pizza" recipe book cooking), they are always around 500F+.
Anyway, John and I started talking on Tinder, and it was consistent from the jump. He responded timely and asked interesting questions, the conversation was great actually. I offered to give him my number and he accepted. The conversation continued through text over the weekend when he asked what my comfort/trust level was in meeting up. He offered to take me out for brunch on Friday. I told him that my comfort/trust level with him was good, and advised that I wouldn't have an issue having dinner with him before Friday, and the my first availability this week was Tuesday.
So, he checked his schedule and Tuesday it was. I decided to wear a dress, mostly because none of my clothes fit well. It's a henley style black and white striped ribbed body con dress. It's not as body con as usual due to the weight loss, but still fitted enough to see my figure. I wore it with an open chambray shirt due to it being sleeveless.
I arrived first, walked into the restaurant and a few men leered at me from the bar. I don't like it. It's my choice to lose weight, and I am enjoying feeling back to my normal self, back to life, but the increased attention from men disgusts me. Either way, I was seated and texted him that I was there, at a table in the corner. He told me he was a few minutes out.
I noticed a man get out of a Tesla Y, and he looked like the profile. Okay, so I thought for sure a truck, but a Tesla is surprising. I looked at my menu, then heard a baby yelling, looked up and there he was, all handsome and tall. We hugged and sat down. He asked me if I had been here and said no, then he told me what him and his son have ordered in the past. Yes, he has two teenagers, a girl and boy.
Our conversation through dinner was really good, I wish sometimes I was more aloof, more mysterious, but I am who I am. I try to not seem so overeager, and just be excited to meet new people. I think this "overeagerness" is also attributed to working from home. I don't interact much in real life with people, so I'm always pleased to have a face to face conversation with someone, especially if they are handsome.
I told him that what I noted on my profile is correct, and that I date really traditionally. If I express interest in seeing you again, I am not playing a game, I am telling you I want to see you again, if I don't hear from a guy inquiring about another date, I assume he wasn't interested and move on. John was very receptive to the direct communication, I think that being a retired Lt. Commander had something to do with this.
I don't remember all that we talked about, I wish I had journaled about this when it was fresh in my mind, but a week has gone by, and I think I am definitely going to get dementia when I'm older because my memory has been pure shit lately, and I have purposely not been getting on TikTok to see if it helps. But oh well. He did tell me that his sisters told him that he should not have asked me to dinner, but he should only do drinks, which he told them that I don't drink, so that was out anyway. I told him that I wouldn't have accepted a drink invitation, and I only accept real dates anyway. He was complimentary and told me that I was gorgeous, which I really liked. Not because he thinks I'm gorgeous, but that he said something indicating attraction to me.
"Sooo, I'm waiting to hear you say you want to see me again"
Moi: "Oooooh you want me to pursue you??? Okaaaay, cute"
"No, I'm waiting for your code"
Oooooohhh
Moi: "I've had a lovely time tonight, and I've love to see you again"
"Ah, yes, success!"
The conversation throughout the night was great, and although we weren't the last ones to leave, it was close. They were cleaning up to close by the time he paid and we left. He offered to walk me to my car, which I parked kind of far, and we just chatted. By the time we got to my dirty Prius, he suggested getting brunch on Friday. I loosely agreed, telling him that I would check my meetings and get back to him tomorrow. We hugged, and he kissed my cheek.
I have started to only hug men around the neck, instead of the weird criss-cross thing I used to do. I like this especially with taller men, John is 6'2, so not much taller than me, but he seems so much taller than me. I smoothed my hands down his arms and he held my hands, it was sweet and kind of corny, but I loved it. He told me to let me know about Friday and that we'd talk later.
He texted me when I got home that he was fielding questions from his kids and his sister, but that the vibes were good. The next day he asked me if I knew more about Friday, I said the time I would be free and another date was on the books for breakfast.
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