The Fern Room

I had a second date with the last guy, what is it, #55? He suggested the San Antonio Botanical Gardens.  I had never been, and I do love plants--and I mention that on my profile.  It was a nice walk, and some of the rooms are so nice!  We walked all around the area, I had a lot of sunscreen on, and my sun hat, but I think I still got a little sun on my skin.  I'm not happy about that.

However, I enjoyed seeing all the plants, and seeing the names of ones I already have.  However, I still felt the same "eh" feeling about the guy.  We have good conversation, and he is handsome, but there just isn't a connection.

It is disappointing, but not really.  That's dating.

There are different rooms at the gardens, one was a fern room.  Lots of ferns, obviously, but also various elephant ear plants, monstera's, and vine type plants.  There was a small circular flagstone trail, and the middle of the trail was a waterfall that you could walk under.  I thought hmm perfect place for new dating profile pics.

The fern room, was the perfect place for a romantic moment, if you are a plant lady like me.  Unfortunately that was not happening with this guy.  I would rather have been there with Miles, tbh.  I know he would have been into it, especially because we saw several of cacti species that we own.  Ideally I would have loved to be there with Robin, but I don't think he is into plants--and uh, that's over, so yeah.

Either way, it's not a good sign for the person you're with when you feel like you'd rather be there with someone else, especially your ex...

The date ended amicably, we hugged, and he said very casually see ya later, and I felt relieved because I think he felt the same way I did based on that statement.

I think I need to fine tune and learn to listen to my gut when I have a "meh" feeling about someone after the first date.  Then again, there is a lot that gets in the way with meeting someone the first time, nerves, social anxiety, the location can factor in... But sometimes you only get one shot.  I know I've dated many men where just the first date was enough for them to not need a second chance with me, so I guess just go with your gut...?