A First Date at Dave and Busters

D&B is not my first thought for a date, but man did it work. 

I started talking on the app with this guy yesterday, he was working in San Antonio, did not live here, and usually I do not swipe on men like that. I want a relationship, I don't want to date just to date. However, I was feeling too into the Snooze Guy, and accepted a last minute date from him. The guy proposed going to Dick's Last Resort at Riverwalk and I declined. He then came back with bowling and going out for Chinese food and I said I don't bowl (I don't, not really my thing). Then he offered Dave and Busters and pizza, as it was Pi day. 

I haven't been to a D&B since I lived in San Diego, and that was for a work happy hour. I Googled and found that they have billiards there, so I accepted saying it would fun to play pool, but be warned I'm terrible at it. He told me he would be dressed casually in jeans, t-shirt, and sneakers, so I thought, okay bet. I wore my good compression workout leggings, chambray button up shirt, and a loose soft pink tank top. I also wore a favorite rose pink mesh see through bra, but only because I am really a tease and whatever, he's a traveler!

And yes, was I somewhat strategic and whatever about bending over the table, knowing my shirt was oversized (all my clothes are oversized after losing weight), and I was giving this guy a show? Of course I was! It's pool, that kind of loosey goosey behavior is practically required if you are dating. Did I look and see if he was watching me? Nope. Not until the end, and I will talk about that more later. 

Anyway, he dominated me in pool, although admitting it had been a while since he played. He had already put a card down and had a tab open, and we ended up in a VIP room, he said something like "so glad we are VIP and don't have to be out with the poors", and I think I fell in love at that moment. That is my kind of humor. Our conversation was amazing, we talked about everything. He is divorced with one grown son who is 21. He has been divorced for 10 years. I asked kind if invasive questions, like what led to the divorce and what he learned, which is generally not something I would ask upon meeting a guy, but our rapport was so easy and kind of intense, I just went with it. 

I honestly do not think I've been on a better first date in, like well ever. I was smiling and laughing the entire time, he complimented my skin, although saying I was a vampire due to my age and having perfect skin, no wrinkles. He complimented my perfume, WHICH NO MAN EVER DOES, and I put a lot of thought into what scent I wear, as I love perfume. I was really happy about that, and mentioned that I'm glad he likes it. He said "I keep getting a whiff of it when you walk by and it smells so good". Like, bro, you are doing all the right things. 

He is a blue collar guy and does large machine work, he also has a side business of selling boat motors that he is successful at. He lives in Houston, and also splits time in Madison, WI, but is mostly in Texas and also travels throughout the state fixing machines. 

Throughout the evening, he asked me questions to really get to know me, some were really light, others really deep. The rapport was so easy, everything was so easy and comfortable, and I'm gonna say it-- it felt right. I kept thinking I can't believe I accepted a last minute date from this guy and it's this good, this easy. 

So, we paused our game to order food, and it's bar food so it's a burger, salad or wings. He asked me if I'm a bone in or out girl, and I said boneless. He was saying that he wasn't sure between boneless wings or a burger, and I said I was thinking a burger, and he suggested we get both and split and I said "OMG are you my husband?" and he was like, "what do you mean?" I then explained that earlier this week my best friend told me that when her and husband go out he wants to order 3 things and share everything and that I need to find a man that wants to split entrees with me, and I told her that I feel that those men are rare, but now here you are. When I ordered the burger medium, he grabbed his heart and said "I felt something right here". I'm sure the waitress was over our lovey-dovey shit, but I felt like he would be a good tipper, so who cares. 

Anyways, while playing our last game I was bent over the table trying to line up a shot in the corner pocket, he was basically in front of me, and I accidentally scuffed the ball (for like the millionth time that night) and said "oopsie" and glanced up at him. His face was the face of a guy that is staring at a girls breasts for the first time. Just mesmerized, blank, out of orbit. He saw that I had glanced up and I asked "did you see that?" and he was like "oh shit what? Sorry, did I see what? I saw nothing. Shit you caught me looking". I was like, "oh, you thought you were being strategic then?" and he was like "Oh I see, you trying to play your sultry way and throw my game off, I get it". He then lost the game, which was the only one I actually won, the first one was by default due to him sinking the 8 ball early. 

He then pretended to seduce me and sink his remaining balls by sashaying and bending over the table, and giving me the eyes over his glasses. I died. I have never smiled and laughed so much on a date before, ever. Once we finished our game, he checked the pool balls back in and we walked through the arcade to use the facilities, and we left. As we approached the front doors, he said "would you please let me get the door for you?" and I said yes. He then asked where I was parked, and I said the second lot, and he said he would walk me to my car. 

I waited by my car, and he asked 

"would you please let me know when you get home safely?"

Moi: "oh, would you like me to let you know on Tinder then?"

"no, may I have your number?"

Moi: "yes" gives number

"thanks, yes, please let me know when you get home"

Moi: "I will"

he moves in to hug me

"I have to kiss you, I've wanted to kiss you all night"

Moi: "yes"

The kiss was good, soft, explorative. I wanted more, but gotta keep my cool. This guys lives in Houston, he doesn't live in SA, nothing may come of this. It may just be a good date, but god, the vibes, the connection, it's so rare for me, SO RARE. I haven't felt this secure, pursued, and adored by anyone else. He is a guy that would fit in with my friends and my family. He even said "oh, my friend will be hearing about this date for sure" and that his friend would really like my brother (from what I described about him). 

When I got home I texted him, and he asked me if I was free tomorrow evening and I said yes. He said "well, not anymore because we have a date now". So, as of this afternoon, he suggested an escape room, I agreed because he said it would be good to see how we work as a team, under pressure, and solving problems. I am excited, and I am also curious to what he wants from this. I am going to ask because I can't just say nothing to this compatibility. I don't want to say it's meant to be, but fuck it's just so easy. I don't know if I am okay with him not being in my life. Obviously I will survive, but a guy has never felt so right for me before.